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Posted On: 25 May, 2019 at 08:08 AM melcee7 melcee7
25 May, 2019
Posts: 1

Hi Everyone, looking for advice on how to broach the subject to save my marriage, I love to look also but keep my preferences to porn so am unsure how best to communicate that I’m willing to participate in the watching and hope it leads to some serious hot sex afterwards but am concerned if he insists that is a him only thing that I might need to walk away as I don’t like secrets. I’m open to kind supportive advice please help.

Posted On: 26 May, 2019 at 02:43 PM browneyes16 browneyes16
22 May, 2010
Posts: 606

My first question to you would be... does HE know that you watch porn? Maybe he thinks he needs to keep it a secret so that you DON'T go running! I think you should just be honest and let him know that you know about his activities. Let him know that you would be open to participating and that you feel that would it would enhance your own sexual experiences as a couple. He probably doesn't THINK you would be receptive and that's why he hasn't asked you to participate.

Obviously I'm not fly on your wall, so I don't know your relationship. All I can do is offer my opinion. And in my opinion, if he's NOT receptive to including you, I think your marriage has deeper issues and you should probably seek help from a marriage professional, not ordinary people around the world.

Posted On: 30 May, 2019 at 01:40 PM wasdrifteruk wasdrifteruk
7 Nov, 2018
Posts: 34

post yourself see his reaction

Posted On: 30 May, 2019 at 10:17 PM dutchess dutchess
9 Jan, 2010
Posts: 800

Lol drifter

Posted On: 31 May, 2019 at 01:59 AM avadamnava avadamnava
25 Apr, 2018
Posts: 197

I'm gonna get shit for this...but ...I'm gonna say real stuff about my own marriage.

So a million years ago my hub had a secret...as it happened i caught him in it.
I could have walked away...it was a pretty big betrayal of trust
but i didn't
we talked about it
talked about boundaries we could both live with ...while allowing us each to be who we were
and ... 32 years later (we were newlyweds at that time)... we are still together

we have two totally different kinds of perving
but...isn't marriage about compromise?
so we do....

my point in this is...be upfront
honest
tell him what you know
remind him you love him...and tell him you want to find a place in all this that you can both live with.

Posted On: 1 Jun, 2019 at 05:26 PM quietman quietman
25 May, 2009
Posts: 31

Ava is a wise lady.

Posted On: 4 Jun, 2019 at 01:02 AM avadamnava avadamnava
25 Apr, 2018
Posts: 197

whispers hello to that sweet quiet guy :)
miss you

Posted On: 5 Jun, 2019 at 02:25 PM wasdrifteruk wasdrifteruk
7 Nov, 2018
Posts: 34

ok who the feck is the quiet guy Ava